
Healing and Communication aspects of AITPosted on 10:31pm Thursday 17th Sep 2009
In the last few months I’ve been aware of emphasising the therapy aspect of AIT, and seemingly pushing the communication and healing like some poor discarded relative into the background. The truth is, animal communication is the tool and healing the goal of every single session I do. But to say AIT is just about healing and communication is a bit like saying a house is built with a site plan and bricks!
Saying all that, I love doing healing work and have spent many wonderful and memorable hours recently with a very loving and beautiful 10 year old Retriever called Ellie. We’ve been on many different healing journeys together, she’s inspired me to try new techniques, adapt old ones, and in this way has taught me new ways that healing is possible, both for herself and those around her. Over our weeks together, Ellie has reduced me to both laughter and tears, such is the warmth and generosity of her personality, and I know she’ll remain a much loved gift and blessing to everyone around her.
I’ve also been working with an absolutely beautiful Arabian edurance horse - a typical stallion with attitudes of his own pleasing. The main thing he needed help with on this particular weekend was in loading into his trailer to go off on an endurance ride, as it meant leaving the current love of his life in his field; a very pretty Arabian mare.
So I spent a session working distantly with him. We went through the entire procedure – leaving the mare, loading, arriving for the ride, until he could see himself doing it calmly and quietly. When loading the trailer, I got him to visualize getting half-way up the ramp, stopping to centre himself, taking a breath, looking around and then only walking on when he felt calm. I didn’t bother to work on the ‘going home’ routine afterwards because I knew he’d be only too keen to get back to the mare again. But this, I have learned since, was a mistake!
The Sunday dawned. He didn’t seem nearly as bothered about leaving the mare, loaded beautifully, arrived safely and calmly, but the moment it came to returning he went into March hare mode and it seemed like everything had gone out of the window. But thankfully, the moment he reached the ramp of the trailer, our visualization kicked into action. He stopped, took a breath, centred himself, looked around and then calmly loaded the trailer, just as we'd rehearsed.
In a later session, we worked on the ‘going home’ routine. At the time of our session, he was returning from another endurance ride. He told me he was hot and tired and didn’t want to bother with visualising stopping on the ramp because he was so tired he would go straight in to the trailer. When I reminded him about how he did still tend to get distracted at awkward moments, he gave me a sheepish response about not being able to help getting triggered by other horses (pretty mares are his downfall) and agreed to some EFT and visualisation to help him relax. After this 20 minute session, true to his word he apparently loaded the trailer “like a dream first time.”
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Wishing you all the best,
catherinex
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Best advice is to prepare any animal in advance by getting them more familiar with the sight, sound, smells and presence of a baby being around, as well as the change in daily routine/structure. You'll find loads of advice online (amongst the crazy "Do I need to get rid of my elderly cat now I'm pregnant?" forum posts). There are some ideas at: http://cats.about.com/od/catcare/cat_care.htm (I'll put a link on the Links page as I can't add a proper one here - you'll find a 'Links' page link in a box just to the left of this blog).
I also think it's important to remember that we're not dealing with jealousy. Animals don't experience jealousy, but varying degrees of stress caused by a sudden change in their environment or the people, things and routine within that environment. Cats are generally creatures of habit, and so if you anticipate a habit needing to be changed (eg. not cuddling in bed because the baby will be there instead), then you need to change that habit very gradually over time. Treated sensitively and lovingly, both cats and dogs can make wonderful best friends with children. I know mine did!
Thanks for posting,
Brige x
I worry as i have 3 cats and no children yet, that my cats will not cope if I have a baby as they are family to me and in no way would i want to upset them, the 2 elder boys seemed to cope with my rescuing a girl cat but i imagine a human child would be different for them and every animal and person is different. This is something that has particuarly been brought to my attention when reflecting on the other cat at the sanctuarys story. Do you know how if i did have a child I could make it more comfortable for my cats so they manage ok with the new addition? it would just be helpful for possible future reference!
Thank you again for your insightful and fast response.
best wishes,
catherine
www.animalintuitivetherapy.com
Thanks for your post. What you're doing to help this cat is so important and healing for her already. It sounds like she's been through a bit of a rough ride.
There could be any number of reasons for her change in behaviour. Treating a cat like a surrogate baby is potentially likely to create problems at any time, not just after a human replacement arrives on the scene. And it's difficult to rely entirely on a cat's previous owner's account because there will inevitably be guilt and perhaps other emotions involved, and the animal's version of events could be different.
I think the first and most important thing is to work with what the cat gives you in the present, just as you're intuitively doing; helping to build trust, reassuring her that she's safe and helping her recreate her own boundaries without feeling she has to fight the world to defend them.
If you want to deal with the emotional or psychological aspects of what she's been through at a deeper level, support what you're doing already and help her to relax and de-stress, then the Animal Stress and Anxiety CD would be perfect for you, as all the visualisations are specifically designed to release and heal just this sort of thing. The Animal Communication 3CD set can also help you learn to communicate with her if you are drawn to this as well. Or if you want to stick to healing for the moment, then the 'Playing with Metaphors' script at the end of the Animal Communication CD2 (each track is available as an individual download) would be a great visualisation to heal aspects of her experience you're not consciously aware of. These are just ideas - it's important to follow your instincts and go with what feels right for you and the individual animal at this time.
As for being a human counsellor and being very drawn to working with animals, welcome on board! The best advice I can give you is to get yourself qualified (with humans is great as we tend to come in a package with our animals anyway), follow your gut instincts, become an expert in what you're passionate about and never compare yourself to others. There's something you can do that nobody else does, that will make your work with animals unique. That makes you pretty special don't you think?
All the very best,
Brige
your work is so interesting and inspiring. i am currently training to be a counsellor of humans but my real passion is animals and animal healing and communication which is what i ultimately want to practice in.
I help at a animal sanctuary and i work mostly with the cats there. there is one cat in particular who has been there for a year (its a no-kill rescue) who can be very aggressive, she is afraid of hands but if i put my face or head to her she is not scared of that. Recently i have been spending more and more time with her, sitting with her and quietly talking to her, lying with my head near her and she now lets me stroke her head very gently and closes her eyes a little which was a big breakthrough as before you cold barely touch her before she spat and scratched. I knew her owner through work who swears nothing traumatic happened however for a cats personality and behavior to change so drastically and for so long i cannot believe nothing happened. I think the person had one child then got the cat who she said was 'her baby' then had another child and it was after the other child the cat became aggressive which is why they gave her up. Could it just be the cat was upset by the arrival of the second child? or do you think something specific may have happened? and if so what might i be able to do to help her heal?
I really want to help her and other animals and learn to communicate with them better.
Many thanks,
catherine